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Females and Faux Fitness

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Even though it was crazy busy last week between so many activities AND Easter, I still managed to get out and exercise quite a bit!  The Lazy Ironman challenge has really inspired me!

running club
We took this picture after our run… and my kids smoked me by half a mile!

Not to pat myself on the back, but I swam about a quarter of a mile, and ran or hiked 9.5 miles mostly with my kids. And when I look at these numbers on the wall I feel pretty darn accomplished – specially knowing that I ran and hiked with my family so my children are reaping these fitness benefits too.

Can I be completely honest? I didn’t feel that accomplished when I got dressed for service Easter Sunday.  Do I really look THIS big? I can’t believe I weigh 211 lbs at the doctor’s office!  Ugh I’m not making any progress at all.  I think if we’re both honest, you could probably point out some season in your life when you are less than thrilled with your appearance or the number of the scale.

But why?

My husband is happy.  My kids are happy.  So what is it about the bathroom mirror that tears me down?

I will share with you a lie I accidentally bought into: if I was truly fit, I would look fit.

But to understand how this is a lie, we first have to answer: What does it mean to look fit?

The reality is that we are so bombarded with images of thin women on social media, that our brains can’t help but play the comparison game.  I mean, I see this girl run 5 miles and look like she has just a sun-kissed glow of perfection – and all before breakfast… meanwhile I fall behind my children, barely running a mile and a half, bending over looking like a fish out of water, my face blotchy, my hair looking like a lollypop for a llama… and it’s definitely not #selfie worthy.


What exactly does it mean to look fit? Is it a size number? A distinct shape of the waist line?

And this is where – in the name of sanity I yell at myself and all of you who get caught in this trap – STOP!

What was your goal to begin with?

If your goal is to look like a sportswear model, then you need to eat and work out and be photoshopped like one. And there are very fit women who are NOT photoshopped, but I guarantee you they eat very strictly and train for hours (that’s right… more than 60 minutes!) every day.  Some of these women have made this lifestyle their job and their mission.  I’m not saying it’s not admirable, I’m asking: Is looking like a sportswear model your job and your mission?

If yes, disregard this blog post and move on.

But if not – because maybe like me, we’ve devoted our lives to something other than exercise and mason jar salads… then it shouldn’t matter whether we look like we sell sportswear or not, right?

Hear me out here: I have devoted my life to raising and homeschooling my children.  So while my husband goes to work and devotes to his vocation in the medical field, I spend an equal 8 hours at home educating, grading, planning, problem solving, cleaning and feeding three children (how I got here is a whole ‘nother story – check out my recent guest post!).  If you are a mom or a business woman or in ministry, nod your head if you can agree with me when I say, “I don’t have hours to devote myself to looking like a stranger on my screen.”

And maybe we can even go a little Spirit-filled and declare:

13 For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
    when I was made in the secret place,
    when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
Psalm 139:13-15

This isn’t a call to give up on being fit, but rather to trash our preconceived and erroneous notions of what that means!

alaskan hike
Getting my kids to these kinds of views is how I know I’m fit!

Give God some glory and thank Him for how wonderfully made you are! Use fitness and eating healthy as a way to glorify the Lord for making you a temple where He chooses to reside.  Remember that “in Him we live, and move, and have our being”!  What you need in order to exercise for 30 minutes (or more!) today He has already given you, and He didn’t short-change you when he put you together.

Do you need to do a little mental spring cleaning when it comes to your body image?  What are some lies you need to renounce today before you lace up your shoes?


I am a Christian homeschooling mom of three kids, a happy dog owner, a happily married wife, and a faith/family/fitness blogger... Who now teaches classes for homeschooled kids with

11 thoughts on “Females and Faux Fitness

  1. I love this! 🙂
    I’m taking pride that my family is almost through with our state’s bicentennial hiking challenge – 200 miles in our state over an 18-month period – including 4-month lull due to daughter’s broken ankle! And yes, I’m diabetic, 200 pounds, etc. We make what we can out of what we’re given.

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    1. Thank you Robbie! Part of the reason I did the lazy Ironman challenge is that I wanted to write down measurable progress of our fitness journey that was not tied to a size or a scale. 200 miles is IMPRESSIVE!! That’s amazing! I’m glad you’re getting out there – I’m trying to do so myself.


  2. This is even harder as a faith and fashion blogger, because I am networking with so many other fashion bloggers and so many of them are petite and thin and cute. But that is not why I blog and I do have to keep reminding myself that this is about getting God out there and encouraging women to be the best they can no matter their weight or physical capabilities. Thanks for sharing this. Another great post! – Amy

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    1. Thank you Amy! You know, I would follow more fashion and fitness bloggers… if they looked a little more like me!


  3. This. I love this.

    “My husband is happy. My kids are happy. So what is it about the bathroom mirror that tears me down?” <– Great question!!!

    Thanks for making me think about this today.

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    1. It was eye opening when my husband says, “the things you tell yourself in front of the mirror are the exact things your daughter will say about herself when she looks in the mirror.” And then I observed and I saw he was telling the truth! It made me ask why I’m struggling with this self image issue.

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  4. Looking fit and being fit are two totally different things. That’s where knowing your goal comes into play. Awesome job on the swimming and hiking. That’s great!


  5. I battle with this mentality all the time. I’m not sure why we think fit has to look a certain way, but I’m learning to love me just the way I am.


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