Females and Faux Fitness

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Even though it was crazy busy last week between so many activities AND Easter, I still managed to get out and exercise quite a bit!  The Lazy Ironman challenge has really inspired me!

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We took this picture after our run… and my kids smoked me by half a mile!

Not to pat myself on the back, but I swam about a quarter of a mile, and ran or hiked 9.5 miles mostly with my kids. And when I look at these numbers on the wall I feel pretty darn accomplished – specially knowing that I ran and hiked with my family so my children are reaping these fitness benefits too.

Can I be completely honest? I didn’t feel that accomplished when I got dressed for service Easter Sunday.  Do I really look THIS big? I can’t believe I weigh 211 lbs at the doctor’s office!  Ugh I’m not making any progress at all.  I think if we’re both honest, you could probably point out some season in your life when you are less than thrilled with your appearance or the number of the scale.

But why?

My husband is happy.  My kids are happy.  So what is it about the bathroom mirror that tears me down?

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I will share with you a lie I accidentally bought into: if I was truly fit, I would look fit.

But to understand how this is a lie, we first have to answer: What does it mean to look fit?

The reality is that we are so bombarded with images of thin women on social media, that our brains can’t help but play the comparison game.  I mean, I see this girl run 5 miles and look like she has just a sun-kissed glow of perfection – and all before breakfast… meanwhile I fall behind my children, barely running a mile and a half, bending over looking like a fish out of water, my face blotchy, my hair looking like a lollypop for a llama… and it’s definitely not #selfie worthy.

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What exactly does it mean to look fit? Is it a size number? A distinct shape of the waist line?

And this is where – in the name of sanity I yell at myself and all of you who get caught in this trap – STOP!

What was your goal to begin with?

If your goal is to look like a sportswear model, then you need to eat and work out and be photoshopped like one. And there are very fit women who are NOT photoshopped, but I guarantee you they eat very strictly and train for hours (that’s right… more than 60 minutes!) every day.  Some of these women have made this lifestyle their job and their mission.  I’m not saying it’s not admirable, I’m asking: Is looking like a sportswear model your job and your mission?

If yes, disregard this blog post and move on.

But if not – because maybe like me, we’ve devoted our lives to something other than exercise and mason jar salads… then it shouldn’t matter whether we look like we sell sportswear or not, right?

Hear me out here: I have devoted my life to raising and homeschooling my children.  So while my husband goes to work and devotes to his vocation in the medical field, I spend an equal 8 hours at home educating, grading, planning, problem solving, cleaning and feeding three children (how I got here is a whole ‘nother story – check out my recent guest post!).  If you are a mom or a business woman or in ministry, nod your head if you can agree with me when I say, “I don’t have hours to devote myself to looking like a stranger on my screen.”

And maybe we can even go a little Spirit-filled and declare:

13 For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
    when I was made in the secret place,
    when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
Psalm 139:13-15

This isn’t a call to give up on being fit, but rather to trash our preconceived and erroneous notions of what that means!

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Getting my kids to these kinds of views is how I know I’m fit!

Give God some glory and thank Him for how wonderfully made you are! Use fitness and eating healthy as a way to glorify the Lord for making you a temple where He chooses to reside.  Remember that “in Him we live, and move, and have our being”!  What you need in order to exercise for 30 minutes (or more!) today He has already given you, and He didn’t short-change you when he put you together.

Do you need to do a little mental spring cleaning when it comes to your body image?  What are some lies you need to renounce today before you lace up your shoes?

Lifelines While On The Go

Confession: I don’t have a lot of time to blog this week. It’s been super busy!

Between doctors appointments and school activities, American Heritage Girls and homeschool cooperatives, I’m mentally and physically maxed out. But the climax of this week that has my undivided attention is Good Friday and Resurrection Sunday!


Easter for our family has never had anything to do with bunnies or eggs. We don’t even give kids baskets or gifts to celebrate the day. But oh do we celebrate!  My children understand that through Jesus’ death and victory over the grave, we are now invited to the greatest party in the universe!

“When the hour came, He reclined at the table, and the apostles with Him. Then He said to them, “I have fervently desired to eat this Passover with you before I suffer. For I tell you, I will not eat it again until it is fulfilled in the kingdom of God.” Then He took a cup, and after giving thanks, He said, “Take this and share it among yourselves. For I tell you, from now on I will not drink of the fruit of the vine until the kingdom of God comes.””

‭‭Luke‬ ‭22:14-18‬ ‭HCSB‬‬

I think some people see believers who turn to the Lord as lemmings who have signed up to a list of dos and donts. Certainly Jesus described those who would make excuses not to come. But entering a relationship with the most Holy God is not a bore! It’s a feast!

The Parable of the Great Banquet

When one of those at the table with him heard this, he said to Jesus, “Blessed is the one who will eat at the feast in the kingdom of God.”

Jesus replied: “A certain man was preparing a great banquet and invited many guests. 17 At the time of the banquet he sent his servant to tell those who had been invited, ‘Come, for everything is now ready.’

But they all alike began to make excuses. The first said, ‘I have just bought a field, and I must go and see it. Please excuse me.’
Another said, ‘I have just bought five yoke of oxen, and I’m on my way to try them out. Please excuse me.’

Still another said, ‘I just got married, so I can’t come.’
The servant came back and reported this to his master. Then the owner of the house became angry and ordered his servant, ‘Go out quickly into the streets and alleys of the town and bring in the poor, the crippled, the blind and the lame.’

Sir,’ the servant said, ‘what you ordered has been done, but there is still room.’

Then the master told his servant, ‘Go out to the roads and country lanes and compel them to come in, so that my house will be full. I tell you, not one of those who were invited will get a taste of my banquet.’”

Luke 14:15-24

It’s an access with the King of Kings we did not have before that veil in the Temple was torn, one where we can delight in the presence of God and His fullness of joy. It’s being satisfied unlike anything in this world can do in us. 

“You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭23:5‬ ‭HCSB‬‬


So there is a lot of singing, a lot of worshipping, a lot of fellowship, some good food, and definitely some family time in the sunshine in store for us. 

But even with all these things going on, I still need to train for a triathlon (and my family too)! And spend time in prayer and personal Bible study. And time with the kids. And time with the husband. The blogs with the book reviews, lessons learned, and fitness encouragement will have to wait until next week. 

I’d like to leave you with some lifelines I use to help me stay centered on the go:

  1. Perspective: journal on my phone. It helps me keep track of my priorities and rate the day based on how I centered I was to things that are important to me. This ADHD brain needs tools like this so I don’t get lost between vet appointments and frog dissections.
  2. Bible In One Year Audio Bible: I honestly don’t have time to read my Bible and I hate being so hectic. But I value this resource so much! I listen to the Bible and the commentary and it’s very edifying. It turns something mundane like making breakfast or folding laundry into a holy moment; while my hands are busy, my heart and my mind are engaged in God’s Word. 
  3. Nike Fitness Club: I’ve been able to enter what weights I could use and what supplies I have, and how often I can exercise this week. It builds customized workouts no more than thirty minutes and within my abilities. 
  4. Audio CDs: our van is old school and comes with a CD player. When we spend so much time in the van, we listen to stories as a family. It gives us something to look forward to and something to discuss as a family. It definitely beats everyone to their own electronic devices and the disconnect that can happen when you’re just running from one thing to the next. But if you have Bluetooth capabilities in your car, Audible is a great resource! Or check out Overdrive and see if your local library is on the app to borrow audio books directly to your phone, from your house!


These are all resources I use for free. If you choose to upgrade to a paid version I will not be compensated in any way. The only apps I found worth paying for are:

  • Fitstar Yoga: I desperately need to stretch my achy joints. I paid the fee to have workouts built for me as I improve. And I can play any music I want in the background, which usually is my worship play list so I can relax and release tension. 
  • Abide: This is a Christian meditation guide. It’s prayers based on scripture that you can hear in the mornings or at night. With background music and based on topics. It’s an active prayer and scripture meditation app in that you are prompted to think and pray about specific things in your life, and meditate on the significance of the Bible verses in your own life. 

Both these apps have free versions too, and if you choose to pay for their subscriptions I won’t be compensated in any way. This isn’t an affiliate post, it’s an honest mom blog post. 

It will be a wonderful week! Be blessed!

What are you doing this weekend?

Let’s Do An Ironman!

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Confession: I don’t really know what motivates someone to run for 26.2 miles, but I’ve always been fascinated by the Ironman competition.  I’ve put it on my bucket list to finish one, some day.  Although if I’m honest, it seems too unattainable for me.  Rheumatoid Arthritis is not very merciful and I’ve never really been an athlete to begin with.

runningThis is what draws me all the more!  There’s a deep desire within me that, just like David when he defeated Goliath, I could beat the odds, work really hard… and not die on such a race (hey I’m NOT that optimistic.  I don’t want to win it! I just want to do it!).  I think that’s something that calls to all of us in one way or another; we all aspire to DO that which feels a little out of reach – like buying a house, or building a successful blog legacy, or losing the pregnancy weight I’ve been carrying the past 7 years (did I say that outloud?).

Do I have your permission to get a little real here?

  • “Women’s Fitness” online is a JOKE.  The perception of what a “fit woman” looks like is based on the expensive “work out” attire they want to sell you and has nothing to do with what REAL WOMEN look like!  If I wait until I look like Kate Hudson or Carrie Underwood do start getting serious about my fitness… Well let’s just say don’t hold your breath.
  • BMI = Bolony of Mass Idignation.  By my BMI standards I’m obese… and apparently so is P!nk, who looks like she could squat a buick.  I know I need to lose weight for healthier joints, but I’m never going to see 140 lbs – I kissed that weight goodbye in Jr. High.
  • I’m not motivated enough to do this alone.  Who really wants to get up at 6am to exercise?  Who wants to go for a run instead of taking a glorious and much needed nap? Who says they enjoy lifting weights?!  Masochists, every single one of you!  Whether it’s laziness or RA-related fatigue, I’d rather be on a recliner, reading. (Ok, I’m not that bad.  I’m just not that commited!).biking with Caleb
  • I love to eat all kinds of foods.  I don’t go hangry, and I don’t diet.  I may cut CRAP out for periods at a time (Carbonated drinks, Refined Sugars, Artificial Flavors, and Processed foods). I will not lose weight by restrictive eating… and I don’t believe that’s healthy for you either.

So it’s not about a size on my pants, or a number on the scale, or finishing first in the “Why Not Tri” Triathlon I registered our family for in June.  At the end of the day, when my knees sound like I’m hiding a bag of Cheetos in there, and I can’t raise my arms above my head or hold a pencil because the swelling can get so bad…

… I just want to celebrate what my body CAN do! I want to look at myself in the mirror and say, “Yeah! This girl swims 30 minutes every week!  And she has ran up to 8 miles straight! And she can Zumba for hours!”

Isn’t it time we faced fitness as the godly women that we are?  With a foundation on Biblical truths and not the condemnation of failing to meet some photoshopped worldly standard?  With rejoicing in that we are truly “fearfully and wonderfully made”?

So this is why I’m saying: Let’s do an Ironman!

My small group leaders (who are very healthy both spiritually and physically) and I came up with this idea, having just completed another exercise challenge, of doing a Lazy Ironman.  It means we do an Ironman but spread out over two months (or more).

  • Swim 2.4 miles.
  • Bike 112 miles.
  • Run 26.2 miles.
  • If you do any other non-mileage related activity, you can credit a mile for every 15 minutes of exercise towards any of these activities.
  • Complete by July 1st, 2017.

after a swimWell I had so much fun creating my little spreadsheet to track my miles, that I decided to share it with you! I would love for you to join me in this challenge.  We even have a private Facebook group for motivation and support – just email me/private message me through Facebook and I’d be happy to add you!

Are you ready to do a Lazy Ironman with me? Click to download your tracking log and get started.

Just make sure you get the Doctor’s approval first, ok? Don’t go hurting yourself. I’m not a medical professional or a fitness professional.  I’m just a mom, standing in front of a mirror, trying to get into a pair of jeans without using all my yoga skills.  I’m going to move a little every day – at least 30 minutes – and I’m inviting you to move with me!

Can’t wait until we can look back and see all we were able to do in these very bodies.  Writing it down makes a world of difference.

What are some frustrations you face in trying to be fit?

 

Unanswered Prayers

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Confession: My husband and I are fighting a battle against the Credit Bureu over our score and our history.  It has been a loooooong battle against years of unemployment/underemployment and identity theft.  And it feels uphill and unfair.

And by looong it means we have been living with our friends since last July, a family of five with a family of four in a three bedroom condo with three dogs and a bunny.  We have been paying a credit repair company AND a credit report monitoring company to help us fight this battle.

While I’m extremely thankful for our friends’ hospitality, it’s not something I want to abuse of.  It’s also not comfortable. I’ve been ready to move out since October 2016.  But our credit scores were still pretty bad and not climbing as fast as we hoped.

Then last month we were finally only 15 points away from the magic number!  We were so optimistic.  Things were just bound to turn a corner soon, right?

Wrong.

For reasons I still don’t understand as I’m writing this we lost 46 points.  It felt like a punch to the stomach while the referee called a time-out.  It’s like doing the cha-cha with someone who is actively trying to step on your already sore toes.

If I’m completely honest, at some point I was in the shower, asking God, “What kind of animal sacrifice do I need to offer You for me to get a little bit of favor?!  What more do You want from me?!?” And these are common reactions to unanswered prayers… Why? When?? How??? With a dash of bargaining and trying to bribe Him.

But then I chose to anchor myself on truths against a bombardment of lies from the enemy in response to these questions.  I said these truths to myself like a creed, over and over until my heart caught up to my brain:

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  1. God has surrounded me in a team of prayer warriors that are supporting me.  The friends that opened their home for us did so because they believed in the work that God will do in our families when we are able to stop renting and can afford a stable home.  For the same reason, they have asked us to stay: because they want to see the Lord bring this to completion as much as we do.  Our realtors are covering us in prayer.  Our church is covering us in prayer.  I am not alone.

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  2. God is FOR me.  I can look up and expect His help!  He doesn’t just mildly like me, and He’s not indifferent to these trials.  Just because He hasn’t released it to me in my timing, does not mean that His answer is “No.”  His heart is generous towards me and is more than able to provide!  So for all this time that He has not said “Yes”, I have to believe it’s because what He has in mind is better than what I am seeing right now. I will continue to look up and expect His help.
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  3. God is accomplishing something good in my heart through this trial.  It’s not a trial that will result in bitterness, or wedge distance between God and me.  This is a trial that has me fall onto the Rock of ages – and I will remember these times with fondness! I will recall how God held us, and sustained us, and did wonderful things in our family and all around us.  This may be a painful part of His plan, but it is still with the purpose of causing good in me and around me. So I will worship Him.

This faith-based perspective is by all means it’s not of this world.  It’s definitely not in my nature.  It is His Spirit working in me, comforting me, and giving me a hope I could not manufacture on my own through ‘positive thinking’.  So if you are going through a trial, the best I can encourage you to do is to dig deep into God’s Word and prayer.  He can lift your countenance better than any motivational phrase can!  If He has this strength available for me, He can do this in you too!

If you like the Bible verse images, go ahead and save them! They make great smart phone wallpapers, and I own the rights to the photos. 🙂

What is God revealing to you about your season of trials?  How can I align myself with God’s will for you in prayer? Share below.